Keeping a relationship alive!

I think anyone who is in a healthy relationship wants to keep it going and constructive to each party especially if LOVE is the reason for its existence. A lot has experienced heart ache and broken promises. The outright reaction is crying out the pain, others even drink to mitigate the 'suffering', worse, others even commit suicide.

In order for us to keep and cherish a relationship, here are steps I got from my reading expedition and I want to share with you in order for our relationships to stay alive:

Steps1: Give up dead routines: After the initial enthusiasm of being together is over, many fall into a routine and begin taking one another for granted.

• They assume they know what their partner is feeling, that it doesn't subject if they come late for a date, don’t look as nice as they used to or make a decision to spend more and more time out with friends. It is crucial to understand that there are many small ways in which we damage relationships. Unless two people feel cared for and valued by one another, it is easy for the feelings of love to fade away.

• Break into routines. Break out of channels. Take time to plan exciting, romantic, delicious times to spend together. Even if it’s now for a little while. Offer time to the relationship that nothing can interrupt. This is a sacred time for the two of you and during it do what makes both of you feel most satisfied.

Steps2: Take charge of how you perceive your partner each day:

• The good feelings between partners are frequently sharp by the way in which they view one another. Do you view him as a hero? somebody you can look up to and respect or are you mostly dwelling upon his/her faults. After a relationship has gone on for a while it is easy to start to view one another as ordinary. This is a sure-fire method for putting out any fire that may exist. Remember, when you first fell in love, you only saw the best about that person and focused on how wonderful they were. If you want to keep the love alive, keep that going deliberately.

Step3: Understanding Hidden Expectations:

• Take a instant to become aware of what you are expecting of your partner. Is it possible for him to fulfill these expectations. Does he need the same thing from the relationship? More frequently than not, it is our unfulfilled expectations, which make us upset. In order to feel close and satisfied in a relationship, a vital step is making sure your expectations can be met. See how your expectations bring into line with the person you are with.
• Also take time to see if anyone can fulfill them? Are these expectations realistic or simply childhood dreams you are still carrying with you?

Step4: Letting Him Fulfill Your Dreams:

• Become aware off which expectations of yours your partner does meet. Now see if you are ready to be satisfied with that. Can you find a way to feel thankful for what you are receiving? Sometimes now deciding that what your partner offers is good sufficient, can permit the love to catch fire once again. Then, let him know that he’s making you happy. Most people have a deep require to know and to hear that they are meaningful to you.

Step5: Re-Choose Your Partner:

• When these steps are taken, you will not only be more connected, but you will be with your partner because there is no other location you need to be. The relationship will not be one of expediency, but one of choice. The actual act of re-choosing our partners, of knowing they are the one’s we want to be with, is the conclusion of the reconnecting and romance we have found.

If we love our respective partners in life, then we must treasure every moment that we are together. We never want to lose them. Let us take our part before it's too late.


keeping Mykz with me,
Tony